The Problem with Bargain-Hunting!
Hi! Welcome to my next video series that I’m entitling, “Bargain-Hunting Pitfalls.” When I say “bargain,” I’m talking about something that has value, that we obtain by investing less value than we think it’s worth. Throughout this series I’m going to be showing how bargain-hunting actually prevents us from really investing and fully discovering our gifts in the world, and how it prevents us from really experiencing abundance. I’m going to be suggesting we shift from a mentality of bargain-hunting into a mentality of radical hospitality and investment in the energetic movement of the world around us.
When we are bargain-hunting we are already in a competitive mindset. This other person has a good or a service that we want, and we’re going to try to obtain it by using as few of our resources as possible. The person who wins the exchange is the one who invests the less resources, the one who gets to keep the most resources. The problem with this exchange is twofold. First of all it creates a personal experience of antagonism with the other person, because we are seeing them as a competitor and potentially even as an enemy. But secondly the exchange supports the experience of scarcity itself.
The Anxiety of Competition and Scarcity
We are competing for resources because we do not believe there are enough to go around. That makes us concerned for our survival. Only the smartest, quickest, cleverest ones of us are going to have enough resources to survive. The problem with competition and scarcity is that it creates an underlying experience of anxiety, which persists even if you get the bargain.
A good example of this happened a few years ago when my husband and I bought a new car. My husband had done a lot of research. He knew exactly the car he wanted, what he wanted to pay, and what he wanted to get in exchange for our old car. We went to the dealer and we got exactly what my husband wanted. But when we came home all he could do was worry about the fact that he had probably paid too much, that he had lost in the exchange because he spent more resources than he should have. Even though he got exactly what he wanted he wasn’t able to enjoy it or to feel peace of mind in it. That’s the problem. Competition does not lead to peace of mind. It doesn’t lead to confidence or an experience of “all is well.” It leads to more anxiety.
Releasing Competition, Embracing Community
We want to shift from an experience of competition into an experience of community. I define “community” as people are related together through energetic connection. We’re all bringing value and offering it to each other. In our giving and receiving of benefit we create an energetic flow of resources which benefits us all.
A lot of people think abundance means we’ve got extra resources set aside. But that’s not true. Money and wealth are energies, and they only have value in as much as they are moving. So true abundance is living inside the energy flow. We give gifts, time, love and money to be part of the flow. And as we give we also receive.
Hands Open to Give and Receive
We learn to see the world around us as benevolently supporting us and giving us life. We appreciative and participate in this exchange. Community doesn’t just mean the people around us, all of their energetic connections as well. All of us are connected to the spiritual energy field. That means all of us have access to way more resources internally than we’re aware of. We only become aware of how many amazing resources we have when we’re in the middle of the energy flow. The deepest possibilities of abundance are only really revealed to us as we start opening to others around us and letting them open to us, establishing a community of abundance.
That is my first argument against bargain-hunting. It pulls us out of that flow of community, the recognition that we are part of this lovely organism of humanity on this planet, so that we can duke it out over a few dollars! (Which path feels more abundant to you?!)