Finding Our Competition Funny Bones!
Hi! Welcome to the member video blog entitled “Discovering Your Zone of Excellence.” It is designed to go with the public video blog, which was “The Competition Conundrum.” There we talked about how competition is a behavior in scarcity, which means it derives from the mental energy field. The mental energy field tells us that there’s only so many resources to go around, and if we want more resources we’re going to have to better somebody to get them. We’re going to have to be faster, smarter, stronger, to get the resources.
Our practice today is to look at where we are competitive in our lives. We’re going to do this for two reasons. First, if we can identify where we are competitive we can also diagnose the areas of our lives where we are stuck in the mental energy field. Second, if we look at our competitive instincts we can also get a pretty nice read on our personal zones of excellence.
Let’s start with the exercise. Do a quick scan of the people in your life, looking for the people who really bug you. You want to look for people who annoy you, people who bring up yoru defenses, and people who cause you to secretly celebrate inside when they fail at something. All of these responses indicate competitive interaction you’re having with somebody else. That indicates that, from our perspective in the mental energy field, you think that you and this person are competing for resources. Your responses are a way of getting you in the game, so that beat this person and claim the resources.
When you have a list of people with whom you become competitive, just spend some time journaling and reflecting on what you notice about yourself with them. What are you afraid you’re going to lose? What is the threat you’re experiencing? What do you feel in your body when you’re around that person? What are the emotions that come up? Finally, try to get in touch with the belief that is underlying this response. What do you think is going to happen? What does this say about you, when this person is around?
Once you do that complete scan, you’re going to have a pretty good sense of your response and some of the underlying causes. It will give you a really good strong indication of where you have blocked energy and where you have wounds that need to be cleared and healed.
Second Task: Tapping Into Your Special Gifts!
The next step is to look at the people with whom you are competitive, and observe what they are good at. Where do they shine? Usually we are most competitive with people who have qualities or gifts that resonate with our own zones of excellence. Like me, for example – I don’t feel a bit competitive with Michael Jordan. It doesn’t bother me that he’s an awesome basketball player. But I do feel sometimes a bit threatened and competitive with people who are excellent singers, people who are wonderful healers. Because they are hitting on my zone of excellence.
My mental energy field will kick in and say, “We can’t all be excellent! There’s only room in the sun for one of us!” I start feeling petulant and grumpy, because I want to be the excellent one. While it’s true the mental energy gets very anxious when we encounter people who remind us of our zone of excellence, the good news is of course is that it points us to our zone of excellence! Once you know what you’re really good at then you can start redirecting your energy away from this person and what they’re doing, and start investing in yourself and exploring that zone of excellence.
Nurture it, give yourself time and space to experience it. Sink into your spiritual energy field to breathe life into it. Before long you discover that you’re so enraptured in your own experience of growth and expansion that it doesn’t bother you at all that somebody else is also expanded in their own excellence.
I really hope this practice is helpful to you. I would love to hear how it goes, so please feel free to share it here or to email me. If you need help, if for example you discover you find some serious blocks in your competitive nature, let me know. We can definitely clear those together. I look forward to talking with you soon. Bye!