Don’t Follow Your Nose – Follow Your NO!
This video blog is designed to go with the public video blog which was the first video in the series for “Forgiveness Fallacies.” There I talked about the fallacy that we need to forgive. I talked about how forgiveness is not the deepest possible healing practice we can have when someone hurts us. Instead what is more powerful for us and more effective is for us to follow our “NO” in that situation. That means we figure out what we don’t want and allow that awareness to bring us to a place of a deeper healing and greater power.
The practice we’re doing today is the “Follow Your NO” practice, and has four steps. We start with finding our “no.” Then we ask the question, why did we agree to bringing this “NO” into our lives. Next we find the pattern that is creating the “NO.” And finally, we clear out the offending pattern.
Let’s start by identifying a situation which is painful to us, one in which we have been hurt. The offending party could be a person or God or anything with which we have a relationship – any situation in which we feel let down or betrayed or violated in some way. Once we find that kind of experience, we identify the “NO,” possibly writing it down. What is the “NO”? What don’t we like about this, something we don’t want to be part of our lives?
We follow with the question: why did we agree to this? It’s important here to avoid the position of a victim. When we we’re in pain it’s very easy to feel like the victim, but doing so pulls us out of the position of power. This question helps us avoid the “victim” role and helps realign us with our power. So we ponder the questions for a bit. Why would we have agreed to this? What does it show us about how we think of ourselves, of the world around us? Is this what we really want?
Next we’re going to look for where this pattern is lodged in our lives. We’re looking for a memory, a story, an original wound which is holding the pattern that is now subconsciously imprinting itself onto our lives. The pattern could be attached to a particular incident in our lives, or even a person. We are looking for something that feel familiar with our current situation Finally, we’re going to heal this old pattern. We start by using the “Soul-Centering Practice,” in order to connect with our soul’s wisdom.
Once we’re in that place of soul wisdom, we consciously bring ourselves to the place where this pattern is lodged. In this process we are not that concerned with the other persons involved in the situation. We’re looking at that version of ourselves and how that pattern is lodged on them. With our soul’s eyes, we are viewing how that pattern presents itself, and how it is attached to our younger selves. It might look like a growth, or it may be something that’s attached or entangling them. We trust our soul to communicate to us in the way that makes sense. Then we allow our soul’s wisdom to show us how to solve the problem. If it’s something attached, for example, we might discover that we have a pair of scissors to cut it free. Or perhaps we blow on the growth or sprinkle fairy dust! However it manifests, we are inviting our soul to address this original wound, this original pattern, and free our younger selves from it.
Go For It!
Once we complete the process, it’s a good idea to check back in with the original situation that we were using for focus to see if we can identify an internal shift there. If we notice a change, it’s a good idea to record it somewhere, or share it with someone we trust. Or share it here on this page. Spiritual healing should always be celebrated and acknowledged before our minds have a chance to erase it from our awareness!
In addition, let me know if you need any extra support in this. All of these practices are things that you can do on your own but sometimes they’re also a little tricky. We are often resistant or hesitant to deal with deeper stuff, particularly when dealing with childhood emotions. The emotions of children are so intense that they can feel frightening or intimidating. If you need extra support, know that I am here. I’ll hopefully talk to you soon. Bye!