https://youtu.be/0G02jr9JZfU Does Forgiveness Take a Long Time? It All Depends! Today we're looking at the fallacy that "Forgiveness is a LONG Journey." I will start off by saying with spiritual healing itself is never a long journey. It is always an instantaneous and immediate shift. Nonetheless I understand why we think that forgiveness is a long journey - because we attempt to forgive using will power. I have heard stories about people who have forgiven others because every day they would Continue Reading
Forgiveness Fallacies: Forgive But Don’t Forget
https://youtu.be/8a0TELRatZk Ever Heard "Forgive But Don't Forget"? Me Too. When I hear people talk about forgiveness, the idea of "forgive but don't forget" comes up a lot. I think people intend to say that they're not going to have hard feelings against this person who has hurt them, but they're going to store this incident away in their minds, in order to learn the lesson. As they store it they're keeping a bit of the pain in tact, as a way to drive home the lesson. From the perspective of Continue Reading
Forgiveness Fallacies: Forgiving Debt
https://youtu.be/ckfofDb7GOo Debt? No. Imbalance? You Betcha! When I say that there cannot be debt in human relationships I do not mean to say that there can't be imbalance in human relationships. A lot of times people will express to me that they are giving, giving, giving in a relationship and not receiving in equal measure. When we experience imbalance we can do one of three things. We can either decide the person is not living up to the obligations they have to us (implying there's a Continue Reading
Forgiveness Fallacies: You NEED TO Forgive!
https://youtu.be/QcrkXlJtinc Fallacy #1: You NEED TO Forgive! Hi, and welcome to the first video in my new series that I'm entitling "Forgiveness Fallacies." The fallacy I want to look at today is"We Need to Forgive." I realize that I'm flying in the face of almost all tradition, secular and religious alike. But I don't think forgiveness is the most helpful process for healing. When we focus on forgiveness we are putting our attention on somebody else - what they did and how they hurt us, and Continue Reading